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Make Me a Match

We seek wedding cake know-how and check on news from the global struggle for marriage equality. But first: How two gentlemen went from matchmaking to matrimony.

Anyone who enjoys a good love story, but especially those who are marriage-minded but still aren’t sure where to find the marrying kind, can find inspiration in this tale of two men who turned to a gay dating service in search of Mr. Right.

“I had recently relocated to NYC from San Francisco,” remembers Craig Partin. Partin was working a lot, didn’t have time to look for a date and had become disenchanted with sites like match.com. “While searching online, I happened onto the ManMate’s Dinners for 8 website,” says Partin. He loved the concept of ManMate’s personal matchmaking service and their special dinners, at which groups of eight compatible men enjoy an evening of fine dining and see if there’s any couple chemistry among them.

After he’d been on two dinners, Partin received a call from ManMate founder Grant Wheaton, who told Partin he’d found a great potential match for him: Mark Strong. “I’d been dating since my late twenties to find ‘the one,’” Strong recalls. “Craig was the third guy Grant set me up with.”

Partin and Strong arranged to meet for lunch. “Mark and I had an instant connection, physically, and as we spoke, we found that we had the same beliefs, came from very similar families, had similar drives to succeed,” says Partin. “We spoke for hours on that first date and I didn’t want it to end.”

“He was so adorable that I got a little more nervous than usual,” says Strong. “I remember going to a dinner party that night and telling everyone that I had the best date of my life earlier that day and that I thought I had met ‘the one.’ I was rather giddy.”

“Mark and I made a second date for the next day. We spent the afternoon walking around Union Square. Again, we talked for hours and hours,” Partin remembers. “We both had been on other dates prior to our first date and without even talking about it, each of us told others we had dated that we were going to date each other exclusively.”

“We were fairly inseparable after that,” Strong remembers. “We moved in together a year later.” In October of 2011, they married in a beautiful ceremony and party at The Park, the restaurant where they’d had their first date. Among the guests was Grant Wheaton, the man who had brought them together.

So what advice do Craig and Mark have for single gay men still looking for their happy ever after? “Call Grant ASAP!” says Partin. “Spend time chatting with Grant in the interview process — so that he really understands you and your desires in a partner. Then sit back and let Grant work his magic. Be open to Grant’s suggestions for who he thinks you will click with and be ready to meet your lifelong partner. Grant changed my life and I am forever thankful.”

“It’s definitely worth a try. I was skeptical of course,” Strong remembers. “But Grant makes the process so easy and comfortable. The best part is that you get to meet men that you wouldn’t probably encounter any other way: really great men who are looking for the same things you are.”

Try it out at manmate.com.

(—Paul Hagen)

Wed in the World
Three steps forward, one step back. There’s good news for Hawaii, Illinois and Australia, but a setback in Croatia:

Hawaii
In November, Governor Neil Abercrombie signed same-sex marriage legislation into law, making Hawaii the 15th state to legalize gay marriage. Jonipher Kwong and Chris Nelson, who’d been together for over 15 years, became the first gay couple to marry at the First Unitarian Church in Honolulu. Dozens of other same-sex couples followed suit after midnight struck on that momentous night. Community leaders like Senate Judiciary Chair Clayton Hee had worked tirelessly to pass the Marriage Equality Act of 2013, which had been in the making for over 20 years.

Croatia
Croatia may have joined the European Union last year, but it might be far from joining the progressive ranks of countries approving gay marriage. Croatians took to the polls from Dubrovnik to Zagreb in December to vote on whether marriage can be defined in the constitution as “a union of man and woman,” sponsored by the Catholic group In the Name of the Family. President Ivo Josipovic, Prime Minister Zoran Milanovic and numerous other politicians publicly expressed dismay over the small turnout of voters who collectively banned marriage equality in the country.

Australia
Though Prime Minister Tony Abbott was elected in September on a platform that vehemently opposed marriage equality, the Australian Capital Territory passed the Marriage Equality (Same Sex) Act in October, allowing same-sex couples the right to marry there. The first gay marriages took place on December 7 in Canberra. Senator Sarah Hanson-Young of the Australian Greens Party pointed out, “It’s time that politics actually put aside the views of others and allowed couples right across this country to have their love accepted and celebrated and recognized.”

Illiniois
In November, Illinois Governor Pat Quinn signed legislation allowing same-sex weddings to begin in the summer of 2014. Quinn sat at a desk used by (the possibly homosexual) President Abraham Lincoln when he anounced, “We understand in our state that part of our unfinished business is to help other states in the United States of America achieve marriage equality.” The law is slated to take effect June 1, when same-sex couples will be able to apply for marriage licenses.

(—Jeffrey James Keyes)

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